tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8257953770528428097.post7457565463854982549..comments2013-03-29T08:46:13.887-07:00Comments on <center>Diary Of a Sex Diva</center>: High FidelityNikkiShttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01226899621280662976noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8257953770528428097.post-33527492868514414172011-01-17T12:07:31.874-08:002011-01-17T12:07:31.874-08:00This one is particularly well written! What a pie...This one is particularly well written! What a piece!! (too many exclaimation points?)<br />I wish that people would consider that other sorts of fidelity are as important, if not more, than a single sexual mistake.<br />Why must be put our ownership on people such that even a single step out of line sexually means the end?<br />A single lie doesn't do it.<br />A single incident of name calling doesn't do it<br />A single yelling doesn't do it<br />A single important occasion doesn't do it<br />A single kept secret doesn't do it<br />even a single non sexual betrayal doesn't do it<br /><br />So what gives us possession of a persons sexuality over all other things?<br /><br />What gives us the right to judge a person as unworthy when sex is involved with so much more weight than when it is another sort of betrayal or dishonesty?<br /><br />VERY good post!<br /><br />PeaceJ Burgoynehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03283467415635166115noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8257953770528428097.post-67286825900841866962011-01-09T19:02:52.893-08:002011-01-09T19:02:52.893-08:00Too funny, we actually were talking about this in ...Too funny, we actually were talking about this in church this morning. Excellent post. Your partner should be your focus and things that interfere with that need to be dealt with whether it is work or another person or time or yourself. we have let so many things become acceptable or found excuses for them that we have lost our focus of what marriage should be like. Too many people go into relationships wanting to be the same person they are but just living with someone else and do not realize that they are putting themselves first and not their partner. Marriage is a lot of work. Divorce is not an option in my marriage so all problems have to be worked out an addressed. We are honest with each other even when it hurts, but you have to be to make it work.<br />Sorry, I will get off my soapbox. This is actually some thing I had been thinking about this afternoon.Krishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02528009477053677039noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8257953770528428097.post-45505414738917218302011-01-03T09:32:59.410-08:002011-01-03T09:32:59.410-08:00Very well said. I remember discussing similar topi...Very well said. I remember discussing similar topics in a Sexual Ethics course I took in university and we touched on where the line of cheating is and if it's more than just the physical act of sex. And with technology the way it is, is cyber sex considered cheating? Is viewing pornography considered cheating? It boiled down to a matter of gender, as it often does. Women seem to have more of an issue with their male spouses having friends of the opposite sex not because they're concerned about their husbands sleeping with them, but they're worried about emotional cheating. Whereas men are more concerned about physical cheating. Both of which boil down to what's important to both men and women in a relationship. That's not to say that this is ok, or that women don't think sex is important and men don't think emotions are important; but, it's interesting to note that that's perhaps where some of the jealousy and mistrust comes from. Of course, it's never this black and white, but I can certainly relate to some of those feelings. I do think that infidelity is more than just sex, though, and believe that it's any act - physical or emotional - that causes either of the partners to breach the vows that they made to one another.Carla Whitehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00996413371427324258noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8257953770528428097.post-4949556261149334642011-01-02T16:02:00.997-08:002011-01-02T16:02:00.997-08:00Exactly. I agree 100%. I think too often all the f...Exactly. I agree 100%. I think too often all the focus is put on the sex...and that's just a small part of the puzzle. Generally speaking, the sex should be seen as a symptom...not the problem itself. And it should be addressed accordingly.NikkiShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01226899621280662976noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8257953770528428097.post-16284039236203389942011-01-02T15:55:11.916-08:002011-01-02T15:55:11.916-08:00Hi... boy, you are hitting close to home here. Doe...Hi... boy, you are hitting close to home here. Does it matter if sex enters into the equation? No. It's the lies and the secrecy and the efforts to keep things separate from the so-called normal family life that are worth examining for a call to divorce. <br />If something is wrong in a relationship then you both need to take steps to fix it. Setting off looking for someone else, while hoping to keep the family together for emotional or financial reasons - that's wrong, in my opinion.<br />The secrecy - why hide it if it's not wrong? People know what they are doing when they 'step out'. Anyone who says otherwise is lying. Lying and secrecy are no way to run a marriage properly.Andrew Josephhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15063234777548462157noreply@blogger.com